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Are there any dating apps that screen for racism/transphobia?? My friend can't catch a break.. one day she's being fetishized and the next she's being misgendered...Help! #JustGotWeird #BlackTransLivesMatter #EndRacism

My friend had a meetup with a guy they met online and he assaulted them. They are hesitant to reach out for support because they didn’t follow physical distancing protocol #JustGotWeird #SurrealTimes #MessedUp

Taking Zoom to a whole new level. Class group online was just zoom bombed with a dick pic. I can’t even…. #JustGotWeird #NoThanks

Too much! my roommate who just publicly came out as trans, was messaging someone on a dating app, but when she tried to end it, they began misgendering her all over social media. #JustGotWeird #BystanderIntervention #EndTransphobia

Ugh! My roommate was messaging a person on a dating app, but when she tried to end it, they started constantly DMing her on social media. #JustGotWeird #SafetyPrecautions. #JustGotWeird #Boundaries

Saw my friend looking upset the morning after a one-night-stand. Do I ask him about it? #JustGotWeird

At what point was my agreement to hang out at your house and physical distance an invitation to have sex? Feeling vulnerable. #JustGotWeird #NoPressure #NotOkay

My friend told me her mom's partner is always forcing alone time with her.. she is freaking out and NOT ok! What do I do? #BystanderIntervention #JustGotWeird #Isolation

What a creep. My roommate told me the landlord has offered to discount our rent, if one of us gives him a blowjob #JustGotWeird #Exploitation #SexualHarassment

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One of the best actions you can take in this scenario, is checking in with your friend and letting her know you are on her side and always willing to listen. It is also important to be vocal against transphobia, and push for policies that protect trans people.

We all have a collective responsibility to unpack and dissect our underlining biases regarding race and understand why we have them in the first place. It starts by having that tough conversation.
How racial discrimination plays out in online dating

In 2015, 20% transgender and gender diverse individuals in Ontario "had been physically or sexually assaulted for being trans, and another 34% had been verbally threatened or harassed but not assaulted”. While statistic for trans and gender diverse folks are limited in Canada, the erasure of people's identities can lead to serious harm.
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Covid-19 and Reporting Assault
Regardless of pandemic restrictions, assault is never your fault. While the meeting between two individuals may have been consensual, the assault and violence was not. Try to help your friend realize that they were the one harmed and violated. Listen to your friend, believe them, and reassure them that it wasn’t their fault. Let them know about resources that are available to them on campus and in the community. Support them in making choices that are right for them.
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CYBER-FLASHING IS A FORM OF SEXUAL VIOLENCE
Receiving unwanted obscene images digitally is an invasion of private space, and can increase feelings of vulnerability, and concerns for personal safety. Reach out to others for advice and support. Check out the Post-Secondary Sexual Assault Policies within your institution. If you feel able, you can report the incident.

Cyber-flashing is a form of sexual violence. Cyber flashing happens on video-teleconferencing platforms, social media or through devices equipped with airdrop. Protect online group meetings by limiting link access and implementing password logins. Also check your default settings to restrict public access to your devices. If you want support to implement these changes, reach out to your campus.

Canada’s Laws Can’t Handle ‘Cyberflashing,’ A New Type Of Sexual Harassment

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In 2015, 20% transgender and gender diverse individuals in Ontario "had been physically or sexually assaulted for being trans, and another 34% had been verbally threatened or harassed but not assaulted”. While statistics for trans and gender diverse folks are limited in Canada, the erasure of people's identities can lead to serious harm. One of the best actions you can take in this scenario, is being vocal against transphobia, and pushing for policies that protect trans people.

Canada: Discrimination and Violence against Lesbian, Bisexual, and Transgender Women and Gender Diverse and Two Spirit People on the Basis of Sexual Orientation, Gender Identity and Gender Expression

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Support your friend by helping them take screen shots, block or mute the person on the dating app, and make sure that there aren’t any other access points on socials. Documenting harassment is always helpful.

You can also offer your couch to crash on, if they don’t feel comfortable staying at home for a bit and help them reach out to your campus sexual violence prevention support team for other ways to navigate this.

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Men can easily be the victims of sexual violence. In one study, 1 in 71 men reported experiencing rape at some time in their lives. Nearly 1 in 5 say they were forced to penetrate another person.
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Consent is Always Mandatory ... Assuming sexual intentions, and advancing on that assumption is predatory behaviour.

Meeting up with someone in person during COVID is not automatic consent for getting closer physically. Respect peoples boundaries and always seek enthusiastic ongoing consent.

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Many women, girls, and trans and non-binary people now face a heightened risk of violence at home with COVID-19 isolation measures. If you or someone you know has been affected by sexual violence, we are here to support you: Find the sexual assault centre or campus supports nearest you, and check their website directly for service updates related to COVID-19.

COVID-19, Pandemics and Gender

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Sexual Exploitation for Personal Gain

“It is important to know your tenant rights in Ontario. If you are confident you have the ability to file a complaint, do so with the Housing Tribunal, The Canadian Human Rights Commission or the Landlord and Tenant Board. This is form of sexual harassment is not okay; it is understandable that you may feel fearful of getting evicted, but remember a landlord cannot evict someone without just cause.”

Sexual harassment in housing

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It is not always obvious when sexual violence is happening. Sexual violence can happen in many forms and on a spectrum.

OCTEVAW encourages you to take notice of situations around you. Notice the weird? Do you have a role?